When we are attached to the idea that we need to be something particular, that we should like something that we don’t like, feel a way that we don’t feel…we become separated from our inner guidance. We adopt the standards of the world around us, rather than honouring the standards that are signaled from within.
To reclaim a life that feels meaningful to live, we need to reclaim our individual standards. Along the way, we’ve adopted the standards of other people; causing us to live by rules that don’t belong to us, and create lives that don’t belong to us either!
So how do you figure our what your true standards are?
- It’s hard at first. We have been influenced to think and feel in many different ways that often don’t align with what we really want, and have a hard time telling the difference between our core voice and the beliefs are not ours. Let’s call this ‘inner conflict’
- Think back to school – Let’s say, you liked math…but you hated art class. You were expected to participate in art class, weren’t you? So you may have felt forced into art. The implied message there was that you should ignore what you prefer and adapt to what you’re told. Had you been nurtured on math, you would have been taught to honour your preferences.
- Think back to home – Let’s say you were feeling angry. Did somebody connect with you to work through it? If not…you might be running the belief/trauma that it is wrong to feel anger, that anger makes people go away. When we learn that we are “wrong” to feel certain things…or that we will lose love for feeling certain emotions…we find ways to ignore those emotions. This is a problem for listening to your inner guidance, because we have learned to ignore how we feel. This means that when you feel that something is wrong for you, you might choose to not explore it and press on a path that doesn’t belong to you.
- When we get the message that certain things are wrong to feel, and other things are ok to feel, to need, to enjoy….we turn against ourselves for feeling, needing, preferingthe “wrong” things.
There is no template for the “right” life – there is but YOUR LIFE. We claim this life by clearing and healing the inner conflicts, conditioning, and traumas that interfere with the expression the true voice. This does not mean that there are no challenges…but it does mean, that you create and sculpt yourself according to the real you.
You create the world – Create the real world by being your Real self. In healing trauma and conditioned limits, you tap back into who you Truly Are.